A Vancouver Island teenage bush party which resulted in multiple stabbings and one arrest 含羞草研究社� and other incidents like it 含羞草研究社攚ill have long-reaching traumatic effects for all those involved, and their loved ones, says a certified expert in counselling psychology.
An outdoor party on April 17 at a popular teen hangout in Comox had a devastating conclusion after a fight broke out, resulting in three youths being hospitalized for stab wounds, and another being arrested by the Comox Valley RCMP.
According to child behaviour counsellor Laura Forseth, such an incident can have numerous physical and mental effects on not only the victims themselves, but also families and their friends, whether or not they were present at the time.
Some signs to watch for include developing new fears (for example, around personal safety or school safety), sleep issues like nightmares, headaches, stomach aches, general muscle tension, reduced concentration on schoolwork, and a decreased desire to socialize with peers.
And while such a traumatic event would affect anyone, regardless of age, the effects on youths can be more severe, simply because of a lack of knowledge and understanding.
含羞草研究社淏ecause of their age, youth may not know what help is available to them or have the ability to access help on their own,含羞草研究社� said Forseth, a Canadian certified counsellor with a master含羞草研究社檚 degree in counselling psychology. 含羞草研究社淭hey may also feel embarrassed to reach out for support. They may feel like they need to put on a brave face or power through their feelings without asking for support.
含羞草研究社淭hey also might not really understand what is happening to them psychologically/physically and be confused and reluctant to share their experience with anyone.含羞草研究社�
The challenge will be to prevent anyone falling through the cracks. Forseth said the actions taken by the local school district含羞草研究社檚 crisis team were a crucial first step, and now teachers will have to be diligent in watching out for students that are exhibiting changed behaviour (withdrawn, irritable, newly skipping classes, etc.). And it doesn含羞草研究社檛 end within the walls of the school.
含羞草研究社淚f a parent notices that their teen or someone else含羞草研究社檚 teen seems off, we can talk to that teen about how they含羞草研究社檙e doing, ask if they need any supports or if they know how to access supports,含羞草研究社� Foresth said. 含羞草研究社淪ome youth will be reluctant to ask for help so simply being available, gently curious and empathic can be a good starting place.含羞草研究社�
According to Forseth, group trauma differs from individually experienced trauma in that many people are experiencing the stress and shock of the trauma at the same time. This significantly decreases the amount of grounded, calm, and unaffected individuals available to support those that need it.
含羞草研究社淚f many of our peers are also shocked and traumatized, it含羞草研究社檚 harder to find a peer with enough head space to also support others,含羞草研究社� she said. 含羞草研究社淚f families are shocked and traumatized, it becomes harder for a teen to find a mentally available adult to talk to.含羞草研究社�
Forseth said that it含羞草研究社檚 not only the adults who can help the children in this regard. If peers can spot the signs, they can help their friends begin to work through things as well. As for parents, listening is the key.
含羞草研究社淲e, as parents, don含羞草研究社檛 need to rush in to fix the situation,含羞草研究社� said Forseth. 含羞草研究社淲e can simply hear and empathize with our teen含羞草研究社檚 experience.含羞草研究社�
Forseth also pointed out the dangers of social media when dealing with such a personal trauma. Victim-blaming, parent-blaming, community-blaming and institution-blaming is ubiquitous.
含羞草研究社淚t all moves so quickly and we含羞草研究社檙e all prone to jumping to conclusions to fill in the gaps,含羞草研究社� she said. 含羞草研究社淚含羞草研究社檝e heard at least three different versions of what happened and each paints the victims and perpetrator in a different light. I think when an (incident like this) happens we all want an answer and we all want to know who to blame as it creates a sense of control or safety.含羞草研究社�
Forseth said the community at large can also play a positive, supportive role.
含羞草研究社淲e can reach out to families who may have been impacted and see if they need support. We can choose to disengage with social media posts where victim/parent/community blaming is potentially damaging. We can educate the teens in our (circles) about mental health, trauma and the benefit of processing such trauma in a way that feels safe to them.含羞草研究社�
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