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While match-making or going to a bar to meet people were tried-and-true methods in the past, Jerry Hinbest, a Vancouver Island University sociology professor, said the growth of the online world has changed romantic pursuits.
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An example of looking for love in contemporary times occurred when Vancouver Island Ferry Company hosted a speed-dating event on one of its Hullo ferries last week. Caitlyn Santos, a participant from Vancouver, said she likes doing 含羞草研究社渘ovel and weird things,含羞草研究社� and said speed dating is an ideal way to date.
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Claudia Bastien, from Squamish, has tried online dating, but it含羞草研究社檚 not her cup of tea.
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Milholm was even able to get a couple of phone numbers from people from the mainland. He would try speed dating again, he said.
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The VIU prof Hinbest says that dating in the digital age isn含羞草研究社檛 without problems, with concerns about algorithms and online surveillance. People are also leery, he said, as what they see might not be what they含羞草研究社檙e getting.
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Hinbest, who met his wife on a blind date, said in a sense, dating apps are blind dates as well.
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