Till death do us part.
That含羞草研究社檚 commitment.
A natural corollary is that what含羞草研究社檚 yours becomes mine. And mine yours.
Often there are stepchildren. We embrace them as our own.
We often make 含羞草研究社渕irror含羞草研究社� wills. If I die first, everything goes to you. And vice versa.
We readily agree to add that when the second of us dies, whatever含羞草研究社檚 left goes to the children.
It含羞草研究社檚 a beautiful thing.
And a solid estate plan. Until you really think about what happens after one of us dies.
On death, we part.
One of us is dead. The other continues on.
Each of us would want the other to be happy.
A period of utter devastation is expected. But please pick yourself up and carry on with as fulfilling a life as is possible.
Small solace, but our combined life savings will help.
Maybe the one left behind will be so lucky as to find someone new.
Your children, and stepchildren, are protective. The new love interest doesn含羞草研究社檛 own a home and has nothing of savings. Are you being taken advantage of?
But their free spirit is what attracts you to them. You含羞草研究社檝e scrimped and saved your whole life. You含羞草研究社檝e now found someone who will help you use that wealth to best enjoy your twilight years.
They are so special to you that they become your new life partner.
Till death do us part.
What含羞草研究社檚 yours becomes theirs.
And two families unite.
Not so easily with adult children, though.
Your new life partner含羞草研究社檚 children fully embrace you. But your children and stepchildren are more reserved.
Unfortunate as it might be, expectations might be playing a part.
You and your first life partner were savers. Your children and stepchildren grew up without extravagances. Over time, they began looking at their parents含羞草研究社� wealth as something that would eventually pass to them.
Your new relationship throws that out the window.
Your new life partner is a spender. Their children grew up with all the trips and toys.
Your children and stepchildren are seeing that not only is your estate about to be plundered by a new lavish living, but also divided in two because your new estate plan will include your new life partner and their children.
Don含羞草研究社檛 you hate expectations?
Not just their expectations, but the expectations of your first life partner.
They expected that their children would benefit from their life含羞草研究社檚 work and sacrifices.
They含羞草研究社檙e particularly concerned (to the extent a deceased person can be concerned!) about the child they brought into your relationship: your stepchild.
You had embraced them as your own. But a lot of water has passed under the bridge since your first life partner含羞草研究社檚 passing.
And blood is thicker than water.
You redo your will. Like before, you do mirror wills.
Everything goes to your life partner. If your life partner dies first, then everything goes to your combined broods.
But you leave out your now-estranged stepchild.
Can your stepchild challenge your will? I含羞草研究社檒l cover this in other columns, but unlikely in these circumstances.
We含羞草研究社檙e getting ahead of ourselves.
It含羞草研究社檚 not your will that matters.
You and your new life-partner arrange your financial affairs so that everything is jointly owned and passes automatically to the survivor of the two of you when one of you dies.
And you die first.
After a suitable period of mourning, your new life partner changes their will, cutting out your children.
Can your children challenge that will? Unlikely in these circumstances.
The life savings you and your first life-partner had scrimped and saved to amass end up in the hands of someone else含羞草研究社檚 kids and grandkids.
Can you guard against this outcome?
Yes, but not with a 含羞草研究社渟imple will含羞草研究社�. And it含羞草研究社檚 complicated. I will discuss mechanisms in my next column.
My columns are never a substitute for a fully informed consultation with a lawyer.
If you含羞草研究社檝e been cut out of a will in circumstances similar to the story I told, or any circumstances for that matter, consult with an estate litigation lawyer to find out your rights. I can help you find one if you like.
And if this column reads like a nightmare you want to avoid, please consult with a lawyer for estate planning advice. My future columns will give you options and ideas, but their careful consideration and implementation require a lawyer含羞草研究社檚 helping hand.
Paul Hergott
Lawyer Paul Hergott began writing as a columnist in January 2007. Achieving Justice, based on Paul含羞草研究社檚 personal injury practice at the time, focused on injury claims and road safety. It was published weekly for 13 陆 years until July 2020, when his busy legal practice no longer left time for writing.
Paul was able to pick up writing again in January 2024, After transitioning his practice to estate administration and management.
Paul含羞草研究社檚 intention is to write primarily about end of life and estate related matters, but he is very easily distracted by other topics.
You are encouraged to contact Paul directly at paul@hlaw.ca with legal questions and issues you would like him to write about.
