This article describes abuse endured by children at residential schools that may be triggering. It mentions suicide and violence against children including sexual, physical, mental and emotional abuse.
The things Tina Savea learned about her dad after his death make her stronger today.
A proud man and decent father, Elton Keshane didn含羞草研究社檛 ever speak of his time at residential school. Savea含羞草研究社檚 mom, Theresa Desnomie-Fiddler, and Keshane both attended Qu含羞草研究社橝ppelle Indian Residential School in Saskatchewan.
The schools were just a part of life and more family members attended than not.
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The North Saanich resident spent most of her childhood on the Keesekoose First Nation, where her father含羞草研究社檚 family hailed from.
Savea was visiting her mom in Saskatchewan on Feb. 15 when the Keesekoose announced ground-penetrating radar had showed 54 potential graves at St. Philip含羞草研究社檚 and Fort Pelly, two former residential schools near Kamsack, Sask. Savea watched the announcement online with her mom at her side.
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It was helpful being in her hometown having a potentially last visit with her grandfather, talking and sharing stories with aunties and her mom. 含羞草研究社淭here含羞草研究社檚 strength in that, in just being together.含羞草研究社�
St. Philips was the day school Savea attended much of her life and graduated from in 1997.
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The real impact of the schools hit Savea, as it did many, once stories began emerging from the Truth and Reconciliation Commission. While her father was among the 6,500 witnesses to share his residential school experiences, he didn含羞草研究社檛 share them with family.
At the time, Keshane took his daughter aside and explained he was going to a hearing to share his experiences and that he didn含羞草研究社檛 want family there.
After the hearings his life spiralled out of control.
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含羞草研究社淗is whole life he含羞草研究社檇 pushed it down, hid it and just made do,含羞草研究社� Savea said. They had no idea about his private battle.
Eight years ago Elton Keshane overdosed, addiction taking his life.
After his death Savea learned he was among the children who faced myriad abuses, including sexual, at residential school.
At first she was angry 含羞草研究社� at everyone, including him.
But it painted a clearer picture of her dad, who had good times but was also a troubled, broken man trying to keep it together his whole life.
At his funeral she made a decision. 含羞草研究社淚 was going to be his voice. Be that little boy含羞草研究社檚 voice and share his truth.含羞草研究社�
About six years ago, she became a facilitator of the Kairos Blanket Exercise, an experiential workshop that explores the relationship between Indigenous and non-Indigenous people in Canada. Blankets on the floor represent land and participants are invited to step into the roles of First Nations, Inuit and Metis peoples.
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At first she worried Keshane, a private man, wouldn含羞草研究社檛 be pleased. It含羞草研究社檚 a question she faced privately for years.
During the inaugural National Day for Truth and Reconciliation on Sept. 30, 2021 she was overcome by a feeling he was with her. She heard him in her soul and believes he is whole, happy and proud of her for giving the little boy a voice.
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Keeping the conversation going
Already active with the Kairos Blanket Exercise, Savea works to keep community talking about important perspectives with a new Facebook page called All Things Indigenous 含羞草研究社� A Conversation.
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Savea suggests the best resource to begin to understand, and make a real commitment to change, is to find and read the 94 Truth and Reconciliation Commission of Canada: Calls to Action.
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Support for former residential school students and family members are available by calling the Indian Residential School Survivors Society at 1-800-721-0066.
