It含羞草研究社檚 the stuff of movies: if they含羞草研究社檙e not hitched by a specified future date or age.
Well, an annual matching ritual that has become popular on nearly 90 college campuses around the U.S., has turned that dusty cliche into fun.
And a few couples have found lasting love.
Nearly half a million students have participated since the pact first rolled out at Stanford University in 2017. Born of an economics project by two students there, the pact involves an algorithm that rates matches based on such statements as 含羞草研究社淚 prefer politically incorrect humor含羞草研究社� and 含羞草研究社淚 pride myself on telling hard truths.含羞草研究社�
Unlike each student gets just one name, a percentage on the quality of the match and an email address to reach out.
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WHO SIGNS UP FOR THE MARRIAGE PACT?
Many students do it with friends just for fun and don含羞草研究社檛 follow up. Others are ghosted after trying to make contact. A tiny fraction land in long-term relationships, even marriage.
Count Max Walker and Melia Summers in that last group. The two were New York University students when they did the pact in fall 2020. It was just a lark for both. He was in New York and she was at NYU含羞草研究社檚 Abu Dhabi campus. They chatted online for months, then Summers took a semester to study in New York.
Their first physical date, for pizza, was nearly a year after their match. Wedding bells will ring June 29. The quality of the match, according to the algorithm, was 99.65%
Take that, Tinder.
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The two plan to move to Knoxville, Tennessee, after the wedding so Walker can attend law school there.
HOW THE MARRIAGE PACT BEGAN
McGregor, who runs the pact, said it spread quickly after word got out. Students from 15 other schools tried in the beginning to get in on the Stanford pact because it wasn含羞草研究社檛 available on their campuses. That含羞草研究社檚 not allowed. A campus-specific email address is required.
Rather than dwell on physical beauty and personal stats like height and hair color, he said, the Marriage Pact focuses its 50-question survey on core values. Communication styles and conflict resolution. Smoking and drug habits. And things like: 含羞草研究社淚f you do nothing for an entire day, how do you feel?含羞草研究社� On a 1 to 7 scale, 含羞草研究社渓ike a lard含羞草研究社� is 1 and 含羞草研究社渓ike royalty含羞草研究社� is 7.
The University of Michigan marriage pact poses this puzzler: 含羞草研究社淭here is a place for revenge when someone has wronged me.含羞草研究社� On the 1-7 scale, 1 is 含羞草研究社渢urn the other cheek含羞草研究社� and 7 is 含羞草研究社減lotting rn.含羞草研究社� The Boston College pact wants to know: 含羞草研究社淚 would end a friendship over differing political views,含羞草研究社� and the Notre Dame questionnaire queries: 含羞草研究社淚 would send older relatives to a nursing home.含羞草研究社�
Questions are tailored for each campus since values may vary among students. At Georgetown, questions about politics and ambition are included, for example, whereas the Stanford pact may ask about things like careerism and spontaneity.
Pandemic restrictions kicked in as the pact spread wide to new campuses. 含羞草研究社淚t was just harder to date,含羞草研究社� said Katie Richards, who did the pact at Boston College in February 2021.
Richards, now 25, was matched with Miguel Corzo, also 25. Both were seniors. After some time dating long distance after graduation, they now live together in Philadelphia and just marked their third anniversary. He got down on one knee and proposed during the recent eclipse含羞草研究社檚 totality in Erie, Pennsylvania, offering a diamond ring just as the moon left a glowing ring around the sun.
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NOT EVERY MATCH LEADS TO LOVE
About 30% of matches meet up in person, and 1 in 9 of those end up dating for a year or longer, McGregor said. He knows of several other engaged couples. Some couples who were already dating have participated for fun and wound up matched with each other, he said.
McGregor was stunned at the interest in his little project after receiving the go-ahead from an economics professor.
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Some students do the pact over and over again. It took Paul Armstrong and Shelby Merrill just one try in 2022 at the University of Massachusetts at Amherst. Neither took it that seriously at the beginning.
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Their match hit 99.9%. Armstrong mailed off a personal resume to Merrill with some of his stats, likes and skills, listing among the latter: 含羞草研究社淢aking playlists on Spotify (please don含羞草研究社檛 have Apple Music).含羞草研究社�
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The two, who live in separate Massachusetts towns, are planning their first overseas trip together, to Scandinavia. At 24 (Paul) and 23 (Shelby), they含羞草研究社檙e planning to move in together at some point.
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